I can't guarantee I'll always give the right answers or that my advice is flawless or the advice I delve will be the one that works out best for you, but I promise I'll give you the consideration, love and empathy you deserve.
Tuesday, October 4, 2011
Monday, September 5, 2011
PLEASE NOTE
Please note I don't answer questions that
- do not have a direct question to it (as I can't really figure out a good 'answer' to it.)
- if it has really weird grammar or a really weird explanation (as I can't really figure out an appropriate response from that either.)
is it wrong to like/have a crush on your good friends sister?
It's not technically 'wrong' to have feelings for someone else regardless of your relation to them. However if you pursue it there are obviously going to be some complications.
Firstly of all, regardless of whether or not she's your good friend's sister, you need to consider the age gap. I have no idea how old she is or how old you are, but if you're in your teens I wouldn't recommend getting into anything with anyone where the age gap is 2 years+.
Secondly, you need to figure out how much you like her. There's no real point in making a big deal out of this if you think your friend's sister is attractive (as opposed to being attracted TO them. There is a difference.)
Thirdly, if you do decide to pursue this, you need to think about how this'll impact on your relationship with your friend. As most guys are generally really, really protective of their sisters you might want to take the pace of your relationship with his sister quietly and slowly.
anyway, it is ultimately up to you to decide whether or not it is irresponsible or wrong, but sometimes you really can't help falling for someone even if its against your greater will.
Firstly of all, regardless of whether or not she's your good friend's sister, you need to consider the age gap. I have no idea how old she is or how old you are, but if you're in your teens I wouldn't recommend getting into anything with anyone where the age gap is 2 years+.
Secondly, you need to figure out how much you like her. There's no real point in making a big deal out of this if you think your friend's sister is attractive (as opposed to being attracted TO them. There is a difference.)
Thirdly, if you do decide to pursue this, you need to think about how this'll impact on your relationship with your friend. As most guys are generally really, really protective of their sisters you might want to take the pace of your relationship with his sister quietly and slowly.
anyway, it is ultimately up to you to decide whether or not it is irresponsible or wrong, but sometimes you really can't help falling for someone even if its against your greater will.
Monday, August 29, 2011
Do you think everybody is worth an effort? Does everyone deserve a smile and a "have a nice day"?
Well ultimately you're the judge of who you decide to be nice too, but I'd like to think to make this world a more friendlier and cheerful place, smiles and 'have a nice day' can go pretty far.
I'm ashamed of my appearance and intelligence. What should I do?
Okay firstly of all, you should never EVER be ashamed of your intelligence. This is so much more significant than being ashamed of your appearance. Remind yourself they are greater things to life than school and the grades you receive off them; there are other things, much more definitive things that represent your self worth than a measly grade on a piece of paper.
You have many talents outside of your education and should never ever let anyone take that pride away from you.
As for being ashamed for your appearance and I know this is hard to truly believe and process, but there ARE people, in fact there are multiple people, who walk past you every day and think you are attractive and aesthetically pleasing, without ever speaking or making any kind of human contact towards you.
Also, a generally handy tip to improving your self esteem is to NOT spend more than a quick glance in the mirror. The more you look at your reflection, the more time you have to analyse your supposed flaws and imperfections about your appearance.
If it helps, sometimes when I feel really low I look at myself in the mirror and say out loud that I am beautiful (which makes me feel like a huge dork, but helps me a little none the less) and it also helps to write out a list of all my redeemable qualities.
Also, talking and confiding to your friends about this kind of thing DEFINITELY helps.
You have many talents outside of your education and should never ever let anyone take that pride away from you.
As for being ashamed for your appearance and I know this is hard to truly believe and process, but there ARE people, in fact there are multiple people, who walk past you every day and think you are attractive and aesthetically pleasing, without ever speaking or making any kind of human contact towards you.
Also, a generally handy tip to improving your self esteem is to NOT spend more than a quick glance in the mirror. The more you look at your reflection, the more time you have to analyse your supposed flaws and imperfections about your appearance.
If it helps, sometimes when I feel really low I look at myself in the mirror and say out loud that I am beautiful (which makes me feel like a huge dork, but helps me a little none the less) and it also helps to write out a list of all my redeemable qualities.
Also, talking and confiding to your friends about this kind of thing DEFINITELY helps.
Friday, August 26, 2011
i've always tried to bury all my feelings beneath my soul, eg my fear, my anger, my emotions and everything else you'd name. sometimes i feel like as though i'm going to explode but now, i seem to be a bit lost. i don't know what i feel anymore.
Burying your feelings is never really a good idea. Because there's always a difference between facing your fear or your anger and burying it. In saying that though, it's not the best idea to put everything you feel out there. It's okay to be angry and you should vent that anger but do so in a manner that will not be harmful to others or to yourself. If you're afraid of something you shouldn't keep that buried either. You should identify exactly what makes you so afraid and find ways to cope with it instead of pretending it doesn't exist. Pretending you're not afraid isn't bravery. Admitting you're afraid and doing things in spite of that fear makes you brave.
Hiding your emotions is never a good idea either. Whether they're things you feel about yourself or about other people. But learn to express them through dialogue, writing, drawings or any other methods that can adequately express and let those who are closest to you, understand (at least) part of your struggle.
Whatever you do, don't give up hope. Everything happens for a reason, whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger and everything eventually gets better. Because though things may not be easy now, life is beautiful and we should all treasure the comforts and luxuries we take for granted, which is denied to so many others.
Hiding your emotions is never a good idea either. Whether they're things you feel about yourself or about other people. But learn to express them through dialogue, writing, drawings or any other methods that can adequately express and let those who are closest to you, understand (at least) part of your struggle.
Whatever you do, don't give up hope. Everything happens for a reason, whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger and everything eventually gets better. Because though things may not be easy now, life is beautiful and we should all treasure the comforts and luxuries we take for granted, which is denied to so many others.
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